Hi everyone I am very new to this! We are not or should I say were not a military family. My son just enlisted with the Air Force in the delayed enlistment program. I am and have been going through all of the emotions that could be gone through. I have started a journal to give to him when he graduates from high school, but just wanted some advice from those who have been through this.
Sherry Weaver said:
Hi moms, I just found this site and my son, Travis went in on July 5th. He was in the delayed entry program too. His recruiter did really well with his training and it has made things much easier in BMT.
I had periods of depression off and on the whole year. Anytime the subject was mentioned, I would choke up. It was especially bad at church. I thought , this is really bad, am I causing him to worry about me? I was trying to figure out all my emotions. The week before he left is when he started to feel it. He had times when he wanted to stay incredibly busy and times wen he just wanted our small family unit to be together. The last week is when I felt I had to be strong for him and the raw emotions were replaced with bravado until I was alone.
I have always worked outside the home but quit working for the 3 months before he left and that allowed us to spend more time together. I arranged to start a new job 2 days after he left for BMT. At that point my prayers were for the Lord to get us both through this, mentally and emotionally intact. And to please, let me be available for that 1st phone call.
The first phone call came the evening of the 5th, the same day he flew to Lackland. It was grab a pen and paper time. He was very stressed out and I got confused on the street spelling of Truemper. He was yelling " you've got to get this mom, I don't know how long I can stay on the phone, make sure you get it this time. I told him I got it in the calmest voice I could muster, and prayed that I actually had. That was the worst phone call I had ever had. It was still better than none.
I heard from him a couple of days later, I had fallen asleep in the recliner and didn't hear my cell phone ring, it was on my lap. I woke up and saw his missed call and I got so excited that it was from his cell phone, I called hime back. "Mom, what are you doing, I told you not to call me back. Didn't you listen to my message? I'll call you later". Everything was repeated in whispered, panicked urgency before he hung up the phone. It was horrible. It was still better than none.
Then I got a phone call at work and I, thankfully, was able to step away and take the call. He sounded really good and said he was doing really good.
My letters to him are a great stress relief for me. They are very positive and uplifting and I know the Lord is taking care of all of them, and us too. They are making friends during this tough time and are helping to build each other up through our words of encouragement.
I am much stronger now that we are no longer waiting and this is actually happening. It's just that the anticipation of, things were not ever going to be the same once he left , that was killing me. I am so excited for all the possibilities that will be open for him. In a recent letter to his dad, he said, "I am staying true to all my values, Im not losing them and I am praying for you guys every second of the day." I could not be prouder of him.
We will get to see him early in the morning on Sept 1st. I'm so excited, I can't stand it.
The flights that went in at that time will be participating in BEAST next week. That will more than likely dominate my prayer life, this week and next.
They're making our dreams for them come true, in ways that we never could have imagined.
Travis' nick name is "Big Country". He's 6'5" and a well fed Texan boy, the nickname doesn't suggest that they are aware, he is one of the biggest Christian Metal Head rockers that there is.
Welcome Sherry, glad to hear your son is doing well at BMT. My son also went in with a strong set of values which has helped him, especially during Tech School when they have more freedom. What part of Texas are you from? We lived in Levelland for 4 years (just west of Lubbock) I really liked it there.
How long has your son been in the Air Force? We actually live in New Deal. It is just a little north of Lubbock. We have a Lubbock address. It is so dry here this year. You know, the wind blows and the dust rises. It just rises a little more this year.
I was wondering if you had gotten an answer to your question? That is something that I have been wondering too. How are things going for you? It is your son in BMT, isn't it? I am very much a Newbie at this.
Beth and Sherry,
Grant did DEP and was an A1C when he graduated BMT but he was told it was because he had 4 years of AFJROTC in high school and he was an Eagle Scout. I have also heard that if you have a certain amount of college hours (not sure how many) they also graduate as A1C. I don't think being in DEP and signing up for 6 years makes them an A1C but I could be wrong. Sorry I'm not more help.
That sounds right, Lynette. From what I've been learning, if you are in DEP and enlist for 6 years, you will be A1C after 20 weeks of Tech School, or after graduating from Tech School (whichever comes first). You remain an Airman until then.