Wow...never in a thousand years did I expect to feel this way. But when I saw my 18 year old son get on that bus from MEPS the tears poured down my face and they didn't stop for days. Until I found this site I thought I was alone and partically insane. I never considered myself a weak woman and ceratinly not a "cryer" but like I said...the feelings I expericed were intense and unexpected. But each day is getting better and better. The tears are in there but I feel stronger now.
I had so many thoughts and feelings. One minute I was grieving and the next minute I was a proud military mom. It was pitiful for the first days or so. I couldn't talk about it with others..they didn't seem to understand. They tried to compare it to a kid going off to college..But this is not the same. It's very different. Those first couple of days I found myself alone in thought and I was constantly reevaluating my parenting skills and asking myself things like, "did I give him enough?, Did I tell him I loved him enough in his life? Or was I too tuff? Can he do this? I like him just the way he is now, I don't want him to change... LOL...WOW!
For all of the very new moms please know you are not insane and we are here because we are strong. And lets face it...we are also worrying and grieving and proud and in need of some serious support. LOL
Brandon has been in a whole week now. It feels like so much longer. I know it's going to be a tough journey for him, but the USAF is going to give him things I could not. They will keep him healthy and strong.
Just because you have not heard from your soldier, do not worry. He/she is very busy right now. their TI is working very hard to eliminate all of those bad civilian habits they have. This takes time. My god it took ME almost 18 years to teach him to make is bed. His TI was able to accomplish that in a matter of minutes! LOL...
Thank you , thank you to all of you. I love your stories, they give me strength and normalcy.
Tracy.... Deep Breaths!!!!!
He is OK!!!!! That first phone call is ALWAYS emotional, my son was actually in tears. said the same thing that it was the hardest thing, he was homesick etc..... WRITE HIM WRITE HIM WRITE HIM!!!!!!!!!! Be upbeat and positive tell him how proud you are of him tell him funny things that are happening at home etc.... They live for letters!!!!!. tell him that it gets better at week 3 NOT easier but better. The Trainee that called on Sunday IS NOT the trainee you will hear in about 3 more weeks and is not the trainee you will see at Graduation. the transformation is AMAZING!!!!!! My son was in BMT Jan - March this year and it is a rollercoaster ride. Ups and downs, twists and turns, seems to move soooo slow only to speed up suddenly! I promise that it will all be worth it when you see him at graduation!!!!! He is safe and well taken care of and definately well fed ( my son actully gained weight and raved about the food at BMT!) and dont worry about the pushups that is a constant at BMT Hang in there Mom it will be ok!!!!!!
Thank you so much for this letter i am now in tears , of relief, I still can't belive i feel so emotional, it is not like i will never see him again, but just knowing how sad he was , breaks my heart, I know i coddled him , that is what my husband always says , but he is my youngest and only son, He is 23 but not a confindent one, How did you handle it ,
he left 2 days before thanksgiving and will not be here for christmas , his and mine first time ever,
I have some health issues and in and out of the hospital every 6 weeks for plasma infusions and very high BP so I know NOT to discuss this with him, when he was home he usually came with me for support now i need to be even stronger for him and me
you are so wonderful to respond
thank you again
Feeling Emotional is normal!!!!! I went back and forth between Pride, tears and I think I am going to throw up :-) It gets better....Shop for him and take his gifts to him at Graduation! I am sure you will talk to him... What TRS/Flight is he in What is his Training Instructors name? Post questions on the main page there are a lot of Moms that are in all different parts of their Airmans Career and have lots of info for you. What State do you live in?
oh I do not know his training instructors name his address said : his name and 322 TRS/FLT 105
I like in New Hampshire, where do you live, and what is your son doing now ,? mine will go on to some kind of flight training then to california to DLI for language school., Can I bring him gifts???? That would be wonderful, it would make this season much easier to deal with, How was the graduation? are you feeling a little less all tied in knots
I will be experiencing those feelings in about a week when we take our daughter to MEPS for BMT. Like you said it's not the same as those that are going away to college or just moving out. This is very intense and the thought that I just call and say HI to her is going to be the hardest part because for the most part it has just been me and her for the last few years. She did get a puppy for me to take care of in her absence....I find myself crying on my way to work for no reason, because I know this is going to be an awesome experience for her and I know that she is looking forward to the challenge...hopefully I can get through these next few days with not a lot of crying....
I couldn't believe the transformation in my son that took place in 8 weeks..how they accomplished the neatness values in him that i've been yelling at for at least 18 years...but its all good..better late than never learned.. its never too late to learn good behavior. just so proud of him.
I can totally relate, my son left 6 years ago and it was difficult. I'm in a local support group and we have a couple mothers that have kids leaving now. It is not like anything else I have ever been through, still tough when he comes home on leave then heads out again, but it is getting easier. I wish I would have found this group back then.
Keep your head up and let people know in the community that we still have children defending them.
Wow, do I ever know how you feel. First I'm boo hooing just because I'm going to miss him, then I'm boo hooing wondering if we were good enough parents (I'm crying at Disney commercials, etc.), then I'm okay, then I'm boo hooing thinking about all the sweet little memories. Sigh. I'm crying now. Wow. Hubby (who was in Air Force four years) keeps saying everything is just fine...he's a good kid, a smart boy, he'll do fine, this is exciting, blah blah blah...and I know all that is right, but wow, this is tougher than I eve r imagined it would be. He leave in three weeks. This is hard. So glad I found this site!