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Permalink Reply by Lisa Kenney on September 9, 2010 at 3:56pm

Hi Deb and welcome. I heard of Nammas and just joined yesterday. That is when i also started this group. I dont think there is ever enough support for us moms. My son and daughter in law are both soldiers stationed at Fort Carson, Co but moving very soon. My son did his second deployment to Iraq returning last summer. It is a very difficult thing,,, deployment..for us all. Hope u find some support here,

Permalink Reply by Jennifer Olson on September 9, 2010 at 4:06pm

Hi Deb-

I am very new to the military thing--my daughter is in Kansas and my son just went to Germany--to very differnt parts of the Army--I think the whole thing is hard but to help you a bit just keep writing letters maybe send him a phonecard and ask him please to call you because you need to hear his voice-of course I don't know how often they can call-I also am involed in other things I am a Soldier's Angel and I play with the neighborhood kids--I do A LOT of baking it is most relaxing for me-he is also very young and in love remember was back when-when you were first married and try to do it so far apart--you will always be his momma and he is thinking about you--Stay strong sweetie!! Jen

Permalink Reply by deb kreft on September 9, 2010 at 4:40pm

Hi Lisa---my son is stationed there as well,when he get's back.

Lisa Kenney said:

Hi Deb and welcome. I heard of Nammas and just joined yesterday. That is when i also started this group. I dont think there is ever enough support for us moms. My son and daughter in law are both soldiers stationed at Fort Carson, Co but moving very soon. My son did his second deployment to Iraq returning last summer. It is a very difficult thing,,, deployment..for us all. Hope u find some support here,

Permalink Reply by Laura Rodger on September 11, 2010 at 11:22pm

Hi Deb
Bless you, it is hard and no one knows how it is unless they experience it. My son returned earlier this year from Afghanistan, prayer and baking and more prayer kept my sanity. Take care, and remember your son always remembers his mom.

Permalink Reply by deb kreft on September 12, 2010 at 8:48am

Thank you for your encouraging words. I do feel like I get to be a mom again when I'm getting his packages ready or writing. It's hard though because my son decided at 18---he's 19 now--to marry his high school sweeyheart,so I went from being mom of the year,he joined the army,left for bootcamp,wrote to me constantly,to him getting married,and basically cutting me off. I know he still cares and thinks about me,but at 19 I guess I didn't expect to have to let go of him this much! Alot of my friends have kids the same age who are going to school or still at home,and they will still get to hang out and be a family,and not only is my son gone everything is SO different. It just is hard,but thank you again for your words.
Deb

Permalink Reply by Laura Rodger on September 12, 2010 at 4:12pm

deb kreft said:

Thank you for your encouraging words. I do feel like I get to be a mom again when I'm getting his packages ready or writing. It's hard though because my son decided at 18---he's 19 now--to marry his high school sweeyheart,so I went from being mom of the year,he joined the army,left for bootcamp,wrote to me constantly,to him getting married,and basically cutting me off. I know he still cares and thinks about me,but at 19 I guess I didn't expect to have to let go of him this much! Alot of my friends have kids the same age who are going to school or still at home,and they will still get to hang out and be a family,and not only is my son gone everything is SO different. It just is hard,but thank you again for your words.
Deb

Permalink Reply by Laura Rodger on September 12, 2010 at 4:20pm

Deb

You havent lost him, he is just adjusting, i know its hard to understand and sometimes i still dont, i went through at least a year of hating the army so much , especially on my sons deployment to iraq, wheni would talk to him, he sounded different, when i would ask him what he wanted me to send him he would say a ticket home ma.
its heart breaking. our babies so far away and we want to be able to at least see them to see that they are ok. Then when you dont hear from them it hurts beyond belief. have you talked with his wife to let her know you are worried about him and just want to know he is ok? Kids that young just dont think sometimes?
My son married right before he deployed yet again this time to afghanistan, I didnt know he was married til he arrived there and when he phoned home he told us. talk about a shocker. They were 24 so she was a little older and she knew what a mama's boy he was because her brother was my son's battle buddy in iraq. She was great about letting me know she heard from him, and I had to take a back seat but at least I knew he was ok, and eventually he called a little more often, not as much as he did when he was single.
The most important thing is the guys n gals get stuff from home. My son used to say mom if it was a piece of dirty rock you sent we would love it here because it is from home. (once i kind of burnt some of his cookies and sent him a note apologizing for it.)
My thoughts n prayers with you, it will get better.

L

Laura Rodger said:

deb kreft said:

Thank you for your encouraging words. I do feel like I get to be a mom again when I'm getting his packages ready or writing. It's hard though because my son decided at 18---he's 19 now--to marry his high school sweeyheart,so I went from being mom of the year,he joined the army,left for bootcamp,wrote to me constantly,to him getting married,and basically cutting me off. I know he still cares and thinks about me,but at 19 I guess I didn't expect to have to let go of him this much! Alot of my friends have kids the same age who are going to school or still at home,and they will still get to hang out and be a family,and not only is my son gone everything is SO different. It just is hard,but thank you again for your words.
Deb

Permalink Reply by deb kreft on September 12, 2010 at 7:47pm

Hi Laura,again thank you for your encouraging words. His wife started going to church with me,and does let me know when she hears from him,and I'm very thankful for that. I guess I just can't wait for things to balance out so my phone will ring and I'll hear ''hey mom''. There is nothing in this world stronger then a mother's love. It's so great to have this available because my friends don't get where I'm coming from,and I don't talk about this with them,so it's nice to have mom's in the same boat. So I can send homemade cookies right? I wasn't sure about that and I have just been sending store bought,but I will get busy baking--the thing I love to do.
Take care and it's so nice to talk with you.
Deb

Laura Rodger said:

Deb

You havent lost him, he is just adjusting, i know its hard to understand and sometimes i still dont, i went through at least a year of hating the army so much , especially on my sons deployment to iraq, wheni would talk to him, he sounded different, when i would ask him what he wanted me to send him he would say a ticket home ma.
its heart breaking. our babies so far away and we want to be able to at least see them to see that they are ok. Then when you dont hear from them it hurts beyond belief. have you talked with his wife to let her know you are worried about him and just want to know he is ok? Kids that young just dont think sometimes?
My son married right before he deployed yet again this time to afghanistan, I didnt know he was married til he arrived there and when he phoned home he told us. talk about a shocker. They were 24 so she was a little older and she knew what a mama's boy he was because her brother was my son's battle buddy in iraq. She was great about letting me know she heard from him, and I had to take a back seat but at least I knew he was ok, and eventually he called a little more often, not as much as he did when he was single.
The most important thing is the guys n gals get stuff from home. My son used to say mom if it was a piece of dirty rock you sent we would love it here because it is from home. (once i kind of burnt some of his cookies and sent him a note apologizing for it.)
My thoughts n prayers with you, it will get better.

L

Laura Rodger said:

deb kreft said:

Thank you for your encouraging words. I do feel like I get to be a mom again when I'm getting his packages ready or writing. It's hard though because my son decided at 18---he's 19 now--to marry his high school sweeyheart,so I went from being mom of the year,he joined the army,left for bootcamp,wrote to me constantly,to him getting married,and basically cutting me off. I know he still cares and thinks about me,but at 19 I guess I didn't expect to have to let go of him this much! Alot of my friends have kids the same age who are going to school or still at home,and they will still get to hang out and be a family,and not only is my son gone everything is SO different. It just is hard,but thank you again for your words.
Deb