Proud Army Reserve Wives

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Comment by timeka bembridge on December 31, 2011 at 1:47am

I don't have many friends outsid eof my boyfriend so I'm worried that I'll be very lonely when he is gone. He's in the delayed entry prgram so I already suffer every weekend when he goes to drills.

Comment by Adreanna Edwards on December 18, 2011 at 4:54am

Hi Everyone,

I'm new to the site and I found this group. I hope it will be helpful to talk to other military wives in my situation. My friends and family don't quite understand the difference between Active and Reserves and my in-laws have another son (my husbands twin brother) that is active duty and they assume him and his fiance have it harder. It's a little crazy right now because we are still living with his parents but hopefully that will soon change...

Comment by Allison Gygi on September 27, 2011 at 8:10pm

Eve-

Any time you need to vent or something, feel free to message me.  My husband has been in for a little over a year and a half and I have had a hard time at times as well.  My advice is to just take it one day at a time.  Keep busy (but I'm sure that's not a problem with being in college).  And connect with people that are in the same circumstance.  I hope this helps.  Feel free to message me anytime if you ever need to talk or something.

Comment by Christina Astuto on November 9, 2010 at 9:59pm

Hi ladies! My name is Christina, I'm a newlywed National Guard wife. I've been with hubby for 5 years, and tomorrow will officially be a month that we've been married! Just wanted to say hi and say that I'm looking forward to talking with everyone =)

Comment by Nancy Abramowitz on September 13, 2010 at 10:54pm

My fiance and his family lives near UConn, I live near the Mass border (I'll tell you specific towns if you message me). I love the area and since his guard commitment is about 5 years after he gets back next sept, we'll be around for a while and are going to get married here, hopefully in 2012! I've been doing ok with the "ours" thing, I'm just not as good with the "us" being a "me" for a year! Guess I have to get used to it...DF went to flight school in AL and loved it - might be a transplant myself in the future!

Allison, I'm very glad I found this page, I'm doing ok today, but I know there will be tough days to come! You're right, no one really understands and I can't expect them to want to hear about it all the time.

Anyways, if anyone has ideas on how to be supportive of him when he's stressing down on Post (aka the RIGHT things to say!) I'd appreciate it, I don't want to accidentally say something that will worry him even more.

Comment by Jennifer Gresham on September 13, 2010 at 5:57pm

Hey Nancy! Where in CT? I went to UConn for my undergrad. Loved it there! I know what you mean about being independent. I didn't meet my husband until I was 30, after I had been living on my own in New York City for several years. I still have trouble with "mine vs. ours" ... lol!

Growing up in the northeast, I still feel a little out of place down south in SC. Add that to not knowing anything about military life until I met my hubby ... well, you can guess :-)

Comment by Allison Gygi on September 13, 2010 at 5:25pm

We're in Utah. Trust me, there have been many times when I have needed to vent and didn't have anyone to talk to. I would talk to my friends and they were helpful but it just wasn't the same because they didn't really understand what it was like. I really wish I had found this page at the beginning because it would've made those times a lot better!

Comment by Nancy Abramowitz on September 13, 2010 at 4:44pm

Thanks Allison, it's nice to meet you as well! Where are you located? I'm in CT but he's with an MA guard company. I noticed your post in another chat - I'm super independent as well, and I didn't think I'd need anyone or anything to get through this - but boy was I wrong! Even before he left, I felt the need to find others like me, which is so unlike me! I'm here to vent to as well :-)

Comment by Allison Gygi on September 13, 2010 at 4:24pm

Hi Nancy! It's nice to meet you! I am in the same boat as you. My husband is coming back from basic this week and hasn't been to drill with his new unit yet so I know no one around where I live. I never thought I would be an army wife either. I new no one in the military prior to this and I am definitely still learning about the military. If you ever need to talk or vent, please feel free to contact me.

Comment by Nancy Abramowitz on September 13, 2010 at 3:06pm

My fiance is in the National Guard and just left on the 11th for Mob at Fort Hood, then he's off to Iraq. I never thought I'd be an Army (future) wife, have no one in my family/friends who has ever gone through a deployment, and there are very few members of his unit who live near me since he drills an hour from home (North Central CT). Also, many of the wives who are somewhat local are also moms and don't have much spare time to socialize. Hoping I could meet some nice Guard wives/fiances here!

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