How to support your hubby!

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Permalink Reply by Amy Reed on November 17, 2010 at 11:45pm

I got this little photo album (really small) and I was going to put in some pictures of my daughter and I and send it to my husband for Christmas! (Oh yeah not to mention pictures of his Golden Retriever). I have to say that it definitely helps staying busy. My daughter and I have something special planned everyday during the week M-F. So the weekends are for fun! :-) I love our routine and it helps the weeks go by with ease. Plus it gets us out of the house!! At first this 3rd deployment was making me so upset by not being able to talk to him as much as I used to. But with the help of our routine I try not to think about it. But a lot of people are constantly asking me if I talked to my husband lately and that's when I realize how long it's been.

Permalink Reply by Courtney Shea Madden on November 18, 2010 at 2:01pm

We usually take a couple of pictures a day so he doesnt miss out on anything I usually email them because packages are getting so expensive. But every two weeks I will send a package full of goodies :) it gives me something to do and him something to look forward to!! and yes routines are very important ecspecially with little ones, once something gets hectic its really hard to keep your mind focused on the good in the situation!

Permalink Reply by Amyelitza Rodriguez on December 13, 2010 at 10:43am

I'm going to my 6th deployment, my husband is 11B (Infantryman). One thing that it been working for us, are let him know that you love him....Not matter how many letter he receive he always going to find the "I love you" and the "I miss you", because sometimes they don't have the time or the opportunity to call home. At least they can read it and they can feel more comfort. Since we married 12 years ago, he been going to to deployments. We have 3 boys (12 years, 10 years and 5 years) and even them write to Daddy. And I explain them the importance to write those two phrases to him, and I can tell it works....Those small details, it light their day not matter where they are.  Is very important too, if they get back and you as a wife notice a change on their behavior to be gentle and tell your husband to seek for help. I know is hard for them but sometimes, they need to have therapy. As a family we should take care of each other, and more of them, because men don't want to accept that they need help. I can say this because when my husband return after his 4th deployment, I notice that my husband sleeping patterns change, and I told my husband to go to get help. I had 3 years in Nursing and I had a Associated Degree in Health, and I always keep an eye to any change that he may present. I sit with him and express him the changes that we as a family we notice on him.  A good communication, and comprehension it make it work....I'm glad that not only me, but with the years I been showing my kids to understand their Daddy works. I know is hard but as a family you have to do it. Because after many months if disconnect it, they are trying to re-connect again in a short period of time with us (wife ad kids), and is not an easy thing. All these years, I learn too many things, or have many good and bad experiences....Sometimes we sit as a family and talk about those days and sometimes we laugh about it, and see how much as a family we grow.

Permalink Reply by Cheryl Dehlin on July 30, 2011 at 4:00pm

My husband is leaving for Afghanistan later this year and I'm trying really hard to be strong, but after losing my sister 5 yrs ago and then my son 3 yrs ago, I have to admit I'm petrified of losing him. He's been in the army over 25 yrs but we've only been married a few years so it's all new to me...