Wives of deployed soldiers


Wives of deployed soldiers

Im a new army wife and this is my first deployment. I just think it would be really helpful to have other people to talk to during this hard time.

Website: http://wivesofdeployedsoldiers
Location: texas
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No communication...

Started by Jharmesha White. Last reply by Sarah Stanfield Jan 21, 2013. 5 Replies

Hello ladies,There have been a few times when my husband and I couldn't communicate. He pays for the internet, but that doesn't guarantee it to work. Am I the only one who freaks out after days or…Continue

Does anyone feel guilty for having fun without their spouse?

Started by Larci Robertson. Last reply by Larci Robertson Jan 24, 2011. 3 Replies

I am having a hard time having fun doing anything without my kids. I don't feel guilt for having fun with the kids but when I hang out with friends for a movie or dinner I feel guilty. Like I…Continue

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Comment by Michael Scott Elliston on January 28, 2012 at 1:01am

hen your spouse does return from deployment, he/she will be a different person,  this is quite often temporary, but can last for many years afterwards.  when they first return home, day to ay live here will seem strange.  even if being asked simple questions (such as what they want to eat.. quite often , don't ask them what they want and leave it open ended ... give them choices... would you like this? or would you prefer this instead?)

Comment by Michael Scott Elliston on January 28, 2012 at 12:58am

i'm not a wife of a military member,, my ex-wife was marine corps.... she's already EAS'd and is on IRR.   however, for dealing with deployed family members, Military One Source (www.militaryonesource.mil) does have offer advice and help to those dealing with family members on deployment.  it is worth looking into

Comment by Deborah England on November 8, 2011 at 12:24am
Im having such a hard time,my husband pcs'd to South Korea two days ago and i havent heard from him since,he promised to call when he got to the airport in Seattle and when he arrived in Korea,but the calls never came,and its so unlike him. I cant halp but be worried,but now my sadness is turning into anger,because it feels like he is being inconsiderate of my feelings,he knows how worried i get. And now i cant help but think maybe this was his way of getting away from me. I keep going over every mean thing i ever said to him and i am feeling so guilty,when he left i was mad because i didnt want him to go and felt like he was choosing his job over his family again,leaving me to care for our disabled daughter alone again,hes already missed her first three birthdays and now hes gonna miss yet another and her first day of school. I cried nonstop til this morning. I just cant help but feel abandoned. I know im probably overreacting but i just cant help it. I should be used to this lifrstyle by now but its still hard.
Comment by Telandria Boyd-Johnson on November 5, 2011 at 9:47pm

I think I've hit the wall with this deployment.  I am so sick of it and I am always grumpy.  I am especially jealous of families where both Mom, Dad and children all staying in the same home.  I am so tired of skyping and raising our son by myself.  How do you guys get past this phase with the deployment.  I am sick of being so negative. 





Comment by Shannon Wakeman on September 4, 2011 at 9:49pm
My husband leaves in about 6 hours to Afghanistan. This is our first deployment although we have lived seperate for nearly 16 months already, due to family needs and what not. Anyways I thought this was going to be easier on me since we have lived apart for so long and only get the occasional visits every few months...but in reality deployment is deployment, war zones and war zones, and theres no icing on the cake or rounding the edges.  It stinks just as much for me as it does for wives that spent every waken moment with their husband up until deployment. I cant wait until he comes home, but for now ill find peace and happiness in any and everything I can.
Comment by Amanda Panell on February 1, 2011 at 11:15am
Hi Jharmesha!  I hope it goes smoothly, too!  We head over to the Navy Reserve Center on 2/15.  Supposedly his deployment is a total of 430 days, but about 40 of those will be in Norfolk and Ft. Dix....so I may get to see him once or twice while he is training.  How are you doing with your hubs gone?  Do you have children?  I have a teenager, so I am not looking forward to being the sole disciplinarian, I am telling you! 
Comment by Jharmesha White on January 31, 2011 at 7:46pm
Hi Amanda=-) I know the hassle of all the insurance stuff! I got the "run arounds" forever... I hope the transition is smooth for you. My husband is currently in Iraq for his first deployment. He's been gone about 2 1/2 months, but but it feels like 2 years! How long will your husband be in Kuwait?
Comment by Amanda Panell on January 24, 2011 at 1:14pm
Hi all!  I am a Navy wife and my hubs is leaving 2/18 for Kuwait....this is all new to us, b/c he is in the Reserves and has never been gone since we have been together.  We are also dealing with signing up as dependants, Tricare, etc...., b/c none of these things applied to us before....Hope you all are having a great day, and let me know if you have any Kuwait info!!
Comment by Geneva Reddy on January 21, 2011 at 3:13pm


Someone of another unit that works with my husband's unit died.  He was on his way home for R&R. My husband was in charge of sending the remaining stuff back to soldier's wife.




I am worried because my husband hasn't called and he usually calls if not sends me an email or something.  Just the other day, he called saying he was going to those types of stuff for the dead soldier. Now, he hasn't called and I am worried about him and his safety. This is the second death he had to receive and report the investigation of the soldier.  He is in an EOD unit and does these types of things.


I called the number and it said it isn't working.  Maybe because of the signal or he is out there doing things for the soldier.


Has this ever happen to anyone? Please let me know.

Comment by Geneva Reddy on January 15, 2011 at 11:33pm


My husband and I am are experiencing our first deployment.  Recently, I had a break down moment. Currently, I am experiencing the winter blizzard here at fort drum while taking of our two same children and full load of online courses. My husband and I are bestfriends and being in a strange place without him is quite lonely.  He will be coming home soon for R&R so hopefully that will make things better.

I don't go out much because of the snow and just.... waiting by the phone for him to call.


The hardest part is worrying about his safety especially when is in an EOD unit. I hear planes and things fly by while we are on the phone and it bothers me but I don't mention it to him. I just listen and try to remain supportive especially when he wants to make this a career.


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