Does anyone feel guilty for having fun without their spouse?

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Permalink Reply by Amy Reed on November 17, 2010 at 11:52pm

You are definitely not the only one!!! I feel the same exact way Larci (beautiful name btw) and I felt so guilty that my best military wife friend and I went to Disney for a night together that the next day I totally was in tears. My husband loves Disney so when we went to Mickey's Very Merry Christmas Party I felt bad that he wasn't there. It was my first time to Disney without my husband and that just felt weird in itself. I had so much fun, but the next day was when I felt guilty that he was not there. I know though that he is happy for me that I am keeping busy and having fun. I think he would rather me be happy than depressed and sad all the time. Because then when we talk it's not a sad tone it's on a happy tone which makes him feel good that I am doing things and keeping busy. But that is my two cents hope this helped!

Permalink Reply by Lindsey Russell on December 12, 2010 at 1:55pm

I feel this way all the time... Doing stuff with the kids, like taking them to see Santa without my hubby was very very hard and I felt very guilty... I feel sooo bad... but i take pics of everything for him... but it doesn't change anything... it is very very hard...

Permalink Reply by Larci Robertson on January 24, 2011 at 2:37pm

Thanks! I'm glad to know I am not the only one. You are right about having a happy tone when we talk. If I am upset it just gets him upset especially when he can't do anything for me from there. I am just now seeing your reply. I think my email sends information from this site to spam. I need to fix that!  I had no idea anyone responded. Thanks for your two cents!

 

Larci

Amy Reed said:

You are definitely not the only one!!! I feel the same exact way Larci (beautiful name btw) and I felt so guilty that my best military wife friend and I went to Disney for a night together that the next day I totally was in tears. My husband loves Disney so when we went to Mickey's Very Merry Christmas Party I felt bad that he wasn't there. It was my first time to Disney without my husband and that just felt weird in itself. I had so much fun, but the next day was when I felt guilty that he was not there. I know though that he is happy for me that I am keeping busy and having fun. I think he would rather me be happy than depressed and sad all the time. Because then when we talk it's not a sad tone it's on a happy tone which makes him feel good that I am doing things and keeping busy. But that is my two cents hope this helped!