I have a 10 month old girl, a 3 year old boy and an 8 year old boy. My husband has been underway and thne just got back from a 4 month dployment(humanitarian). Well, anyway, I just wanted to know if ANYONE has had issues with older kids 6-10 who have had behavioural issues when their Mommy or Daddy has come back. The school feels as if, my son should be happy. I feel the same way, but it is hard. Hard going from Mommy telling him what to do, to be able to "play" Mommy against Daddy. When my husband was gone kids heard that my sons Daddy was gone. He has been told his Daddy is going to die b/c he is going to war. Well, he is not going to war, he is on a ship, but try to explain that to an eight year old.
We as spouses get taught so much about deployment, but what about reintegration?
Things I have tried
1. Keeping the same schedule
2. Having dinner as a family
3. Spending 30 min.. with just my 8 year old a night
Oh, we are going to be going through deployment in another 6 months. How much fun can this be?