Jharmesha White's Comments

Nope...Never

My husband had lost his job when he was in the civilian world. Our apartment had cancerous mold and I was pregnant at the time with our first child. He and I asked my mother and other "so-called" family members to stay with them.  The responded that they would never house us especially my mother.  With that being said, my husband and I are doing well during this recession and we feel no sympathy or need to help them in their time of need.  To Hell with them.

Well it is a little different for me because my family (if you can call them that) are estrange from us.  I am kind of glad of not being around them, anyway because it would add more problems to my plate than solution.  I know for me, my estrange family would and is jealous of me anyway for number of reasons which would take too long to list.  I would need a separate thread just to speak on it.

However, I understand what you are going through with your son.  My oldest is two and my husband left around Sept of last year.  Every black man she saw in uniform because we live on post, she thought it was "Her Dad". We had talk to her before he left and told her that he is leaving and working overseas.  I had to remind her while were outside that Daddy is overseas working.  For about a month she would look for my husband car in the driveway at around lunch time to drive up.  Since we live on post he would come home for lunch when he was stateside.  I cried because it was hard on her the first time he left.  He was training for a year and she was 8 months at the time. It was harder because she couldn't communicate back with me on how she was feeling. She would just cry when he would call home.

At a time like this people are see how much money my husband is making.  The people I know were only with men for money anyway.  So for my husband to be in military means to them that it the even that he dies I would be taken care of.  Evil I know.  However, it is the truth.  My mother just wanted to know when my husband was leaving so that she and her other low life family member could cash at my house since none of them is working and needed money.

Anyhoo, I brought a book that my husband is reading to that we could discuss it via phone and e-mail.  I thought it would be a way for us to connect with one another.  Maybe this suggestion would work for you and your hubby. Stay strong and strength doesn't mean without emotions.

Hello,

Thanks for adding me as your friend.  You look like one of my classmates from high school and her name was Zanessha.